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Busting Excuses

When we get nervous, we make excuses. We make excuses not love ourselves or take care of ourselves. Sometimes life is just busy, we are too crazy at work, or we always must drive someone SOMEWHERE. Sometimes it’s more important to spend time with our spouse. We also use excuses like “I want to lose 15 lbs. first!” and “I just don’t have the money right now!”.  I wanted to write this to show you all that no matter the excuse, you CAN do it! Let me show you that no matter the excuse, you are worthy of self-love!

 “I don’t have enough time for myself.”
It’s also important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you’re not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else. Which makes sense but is much harder said than done! I see this all the time with my partner Pam, I always remind her to take mental health breaks and that’s why I think it’s so important to share this with you. She makes the same excuses as above and sometimes I need to look her in the face and say, “SLOW DOWN, give yourself a break, breath for a minute”.

 At a boudoir shoot you are able to breath and love yourself for a few hours. Think of all the energy you’ll save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look. You get to see where your beauty really comes from, and this lifts such a huge mental weight.

You need to take time for yourself, why not spend it having an amazing time and getting glammed up for once?

 “I’m not where I want to be weight wise/I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough size.”
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed by only 5% of American females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT!

 I will say this over and over again (and sorry, not sorry if you’ve heard it before), but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a strangers messed up idea of a perfect body to LOVE your own body? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no two women are the same!

 I think it’s amazing to have goals and want to be healthy, but does that mean you have to hate your body to do those things. Absolutely NOT! You should love yourself every step of the way. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going. Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now and then have one when you lose that 15 lbs. to celebrate how far you have come!

 “I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me.”
WRONG!

 This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot.

 Often, we lose touch with our femineity or sexuality when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work. It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal and ok! A great way to find this side of ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot to bring out that spark in us. I can show you that you have this deep inside you, and it might even ignite a spark between you and your partner as well.

 Another thing to remember is that you don’t HAVE to wear super sexy clothing/lingerie. If you feel like this doesn’t show your personality, then there are so many other outfit ideas. If you need ideas, we will gladly talk to you about them or you can check out our website or Pinterest page for ideas.

 “A boudoir shoot is an investment, and I don’t have all the money right now.”
Yes, a boudoir shoot is an investment. It is also an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well. We do offer payment plans. To book your shoot, there is a booking retainer and after that we can set up your payment plan for the remaining so that it might be easier to book a shoot! If you have any questions about our payment plans, shoot us an email.